Month: April 2013

What makes you happy?

At the crossroad by Hermanne Allan Poe

Need signposts?

The main goal of this blog is to get you to think and reflect on yourself. Sokrates said that an unexamined life is not worth living for a human being. I think that life is worth living in any way, but being concious about your decisions and actions and feelings upgrades that life to level 4.

The simplest way of reaching that goal of self-realisation is asking questions. Questioning basically everything. Until you see the meaning in it and what it represents for you. The are no overall right answers, but there are right answers for each and every one of us. The truth is out there. But the truth is hard to achieve. Reflection is something most of us aren’t used to, because society basically doesn’t want to allow that. But even though it feels strange at the beginning, you will grow in to it. It is just so engaging.

We are creatures of routine by nature I think. But routine is one of the greatest obstacles on the road to happiness. I don’t mean getting used to something and doing it, because it feels good or it generates cash. I mean doing something regular while not knowing why you’re doing it. When you have no purpose and you act just because you are used to do that. That’s when the hero of questions should interfere. He constructs a mystery for you: What is the goal of your actions?

The simplest place to start that actually has implications right away is happiness. Maximizing well-being is considered by most the goal in life. So why not know what makes you happy? Think, what are the things that delight you. Think outside your own actions. Think outside yourself. Think, what do you think the happiest person in the world does.

Also, money is not accepted as an answer here. Think what you would do with it besides hoarding it into a pile(or a bank account number). Furthermore, it is best when you do not think of material things at all and see what are the feelings you desire to fulfil with those objects. For example not your family, but the sense of belonging etc.

Write them down (we’ll get to the importance of this later on). Update the list regularly, you won’t think of everything with only one shot.

Now you are on the road. It’s a long road and with many stops. Sometimes to pick flowers, sometimes to get out of the rain. And because the way has many crossroads, it is highly unlikely that you’ll get lost many times and spend time finding the way back onto the right road. But having a clear idea what makes you happy, is like having signposts along the way, telling you which way to take.

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What’s your first world problem?

The previous week was about nature. Went to the zoo, got home, watched a video..

What I experienced alongside the creatures of wild was total awe. It is just so refreshing to get out of the concrete walls and floor of society. And into the impressing arms of  evolution(yes, this is not a blog of a religious man).

But.. I mean.. the zoo. Everything is isolated from you. You are safe. Although you ARE in the presence of predators that could rip you open with their noses if need be. But we are not afraid. We have grown accustomed to not having to be afraid for our lives. It is normal in our everyday lives. Our brains are reconfigured to fear a 0,001% rise in unemployment ratio, rather than a polar bear.

But imagine that you are in the room behind the glass and it shatters. The lion leaps through the formed portal between civilisation and the ancient. With a swift move that is hardly seen by you, the teeth are already clashed around the baby’s tender flesh. Blood everywhere.

Well..what would you imagine you’d feel in that situation? A primal fear that is straight from your unconscious mind. You would be terrified.  You’d freak, go psycho. That’s how fragile we really are. But of course we do not see it. We have lost the touch to the nature. We do not emotionally connect to those situations anymore. We have overcome natural evolution.

And it is totally a first world thing. It was quite well said in a new Netflix series “House of cards”: In this world we fear things that cannot be seen. Like how little am I seeing, or have I wasted this day.. But overseas its the rational fears like fear of disease or violence that keep you alive.

What I’m saying is that in the environment we live in, you cannot be stressed about your survival all the time. It wouldn’t make sense. But when you think about it, it is ridiculous to worry about the things we are used to be pained with, when someone out there is distressed about genuinely mortal danger. .every day.

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One of the most famous villains against the modern civilisation

Is this real? (For real?)

The question that is in many forms asked by a swarm of science fiction works. If you have seen “Matrix”, then you should cope with the subject. What is the Matrix? What is reality?

Keep it real, Teddy!

Keep it real, Teddy!

My train of thought is . .believing that the world you perceive is real. . is a leap of faith. You could not prove to me, that the objects are physically existing and there is actually something more than my own thoughts. . there is no definite proof, I have to trust in it.

Have you ever seen a dream so vivid that you are inside the dream, thinking it is real(of course our brain is a douche and usually these dreams are nightmares)? What are the first thoughts when you wake up? Mine usually are “phew, that was only a dream.” Well, how can you be sure?

I mean, if you have experienced even just once, even briefly, a kind of disbelief in the world(like when you wake up from the dream) then you cannot be sure about the reality when you are “awake” also. How can you prove that this is real?

Another great science fiction philosophical masterpiece “Blade Runner”, where an artificially made hottie human replicant learns that the childhood memories she has are in truth someone else’s and she is in truth a genetic robot born a few years ago.

Both movies describe a sort of breaking into the “real” reality. But if you have already been deceived in such a grand scale, then what keeps you from thinking that your new perception of the world is true?

Of course this thought can not affect your decisions or alter your actions in life. But the fact is that you have no real proof of the world. But instead the acknowledging of the “leap of faith” is of importance here. The reality is not so self-explanatorily dependable as one might think. Even the laws of physics and science are based on a leap of faith in believing that the future will be the same as the past. But it can only be shown to be true in the past X times. One can in no way definitely prove that hypothesis to be true. You just have to believe.

So keep on doing what you do, so far nothing has proven your world to be fake. So far. .

And if you truly want some Inception style mind twist magic, then “eXistenZ” and “Total Recall” are in order.

Do you take the blame if you act as someone else?

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Improve your MOJO, be Austin Powers

Recently I did a favour to a friend of mine and played in a commercial for his start-up. We were filming near a shopping centre and because I was the first one there, I had to start making the preparations. . the preparation of course being finding a truckload of girls to take part in it too.

A classic case of easier said than done.

After a few failed attempts I was already beginning to feel defeated. “Men all over the  world, I have failed you! To be or not to be? Is something wrong with my hair?” Those were the thoughts forming in my troubled brain. But alas, I came up with with an idea to sooth my despair. A trick I used in my sales job past, because there too the art of approaching fellow people is of essence.

Become someone else.

The matter that frightens me and others in these situations is the fear of rejection. Any negative feedback undermines your opinion of yourself and down goes MOJO. But what if it is not you, who gets rejected? Well my thought are that when you act as someone else, you are not the one who gets rejected. This way, you build up courage faster and approaching becomes less intimidating. If you act as another character, are you still acting on your behalf, or are your deeds morally not your responsibility?

“I am Austin Powers, the fearless and oh, do I know how to approach women!” or just “. .this is not the usual me, I’m forcing myself and it’s just for this particular assignment, get on with it!”

Naturally, my attempts to talk girls into the commercial failed. But I managed to make the process  entertaining and somewhat distanced myself from the setbacks. The rejections did not alter my thinking of myself. So I walked out of it with a good mood(each rejection was surprisingly fun) and improved people skills(life-time motto: learn from mistakes). We changed the idea for the commercial and in the end got a good result anyway.

But I also suspect that this kind of thinking may lead to schizophrenia, so go figure. Don’t use it very often:) Also, alter egos do not necessarily take the moral blame every time. After each time you do something stupid when drunk, you do feel embarrassed. And essentially, your drunk self is an alter ego too. Also, there is a line where the effect stops and I guess the line is at the point, where your actions can be described as ” illegal “. .

All in all, the method needs some refinement, but its fun to try out and feel the rush. So I encourage you to try being someone else and share your thoughts. Did you feel responsible?:)

And the final result of the commercial too (with a couple instead of 20 girls):

Do you understand me?

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Why?

Aight, Mikk here.

Launching my thoughts onto the world. To do that, I am of course taking for granted that you understand what I’m saying. But do you? Or. . CAN you even?

Right. . we all agree that we see the world differently. So, that’s that. And that causes people to have arguments. We have all been furious at someone, because they have not done something the way we wanted. We have all tried to console a friend. We have (been) dumped (by) someone. The common statements from these situations:

1. “Do you even understand me!?!”

2. “I get what you’re going through.”

and of course

3. “I understand. . ” 

But wait! How can you? 

There is more than 7 billion people in the world. To me(I’m from the magnificently large Estonia) that translates into infinity. So much as there are people in the world, there are different points of view. Not only philosophically, but rather in the most direct way. . there ARE 7 billion different points of view, because we all have eyes in dissimilar places. When you look your friend in the eye, you don’t see you, you see him(I am of course saying here that men are better friends). But he sees you.

Because every person sees the world differently, we can not have the same understandings of our surroundings. There is no ultimate, correct view, there is only a core product for everyone to interpret.

Furthermore, no one is absolutely aware of the life that the other has lived. All our past decisions, occurrences, (situational)memories etc. These experiences make the humans we are and cannot be replicated by someone else. So when you say: ” I like bananas”, the assumption is, that you like them for the taste, but you could also like them for their slippery peels. I don’t know that. 

So whenever you are in a discussion, do not take for granted that you have been understood. And do not think you completely understand others. Ask them to explain why. Btw, why is the best question in the world. 

South Park is awesome, and if you watch the episode “With apologies to Jesse Jackson” and follow closely the parts of Stan and Token, then the same conclusion presents itself.

When in doubt, say: “I do not understand”

 

(http://www.southparkstudios.com/full-episodes/s11e01-with-apologies-to-jesse-jackson)